Ah, yes. No, you are not alone. Take away the porn and the affairs, apply the rest to my wife, and we have the same problem. Divorcing now after 27 years. Couldn't be happier. There is life after "dead bedrooms." I don't typically link to my stories in the comments of other stories, but please feel free to peruse my profile. You'll see I wrote about my experiences as well. And you are right, if I may paraphrase: Divorce is better than a sexless marriage.