Eir. I don’t presume to judge how you and your husband choose to work out the details of your relationship. That being said, he sounds like a douchebag that needs his self absorbed responsibility avoidant ass keelhauled and re-educated. You wrote this article. You chose the tone. From your voice, you sound like the abused woman who makes excuses for the abusers actions. Hey, if you are happy how things are, stay. But real men do not treat wives and their children like this, no matter what their lives were like. He’s a big boy and can make informed decisions. Sounds like he’s choosing to be a nonparticipant. That’s gonna be your life while you are with him. Ready for a lifetime of excuses for his poor behavior? Your advice to him should be, “Be a dad, or get the hell out!”

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